Yes, I agree, one reason people might think registry office weddings are a bit crap is that many of them are a bit crap. Even when you really really eake out what you can do it's hard to make them last longer than 15 minutes, and you're so limited (cue tabloid stories about "I couldn't play Robbie William's Angels because it said "angel" in it")
I think people are deeply confused about what marriage is and why you'd want to enter into it. If you're religious the answers are given by your religion, but why do non-religious people want to marry?
I don't think I agree with you here (or at least, if there are confused people, there are confused religious and non-religious people, and it seems to make just as much sense for them both to marry) I don't think the sentiments expressed in your comment the other week* (which I guess only makes up a bit of how you feel about marriage, but still) apply any more to religious than non-religious people.
*"My relationship with my very closest friends are like familial ties. It's stopped being a matter of whether I feel luke warm about them, but rather that I have a deep sense of altruism and obligation toward them. I decided to propose to Alec when I realised that I already felt that we had the web of mutual concern and obligation which makes up a marriage. It only remained to formalise this commitment."
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I think people are deeply confused about what marriage is and why you'd want to enter into it. If you're religious the answers are given by your religion, but why do non-religious people want to marry?
I don't think I agree with you here (or at least, if there are confused people, there are confused religious and non-religious people, and it seems to make just as much sense for them both to marry) I don't think the sentiments expressed in your comment the other week* (which I guess only makes up a bit of how you feel about marriage, but still) apply any more to religious than non-religious people.
*"My relationship with my very closest friends are like familial ties. It's stopped being a matter of whether I feel luke warm about them, but rather that I have a deep sense of altruism and obligation toward them. I decided to propose to Alec when I realised that I already felt that we had the web of mutual concern and obligation which makes up a marriage. It only remained to formalise this commitment."