Sex in your private life should be about whatever you and your partner(s) want it to be about... of course the political question is about sex *education* or about sexuality in the public sphere.

I wouldn't dream of telling anyone else what they should be doing in their private life, I really don't want anyone telling me what I should do in mine either; but I think everyone needs to be given the information-tools to be able to make a variety of life-style choices in the confidence that they can do so in a sensible, responsible manner (and of course some people won't need or want to use all of those tools).

I'm not a big fan of sex-as-performance either; but I'm more irritated by the sexualisation of every-day things than I am with such things as burlesque clubs or porn films - those are things aimed at a specific audience, clearly advertised as being for that audience and not something I generally stumble upon accidentally. Although there are issues with performers rights I feel that if those were dealt with then those wishing to perform and those wishing to watch could all do so somewhere where I am not and I would be happy with that.

I do think that people in general should be responsible. That whilst you should get what you need you should give what you can in return. The right-wing press likes to bring up stereotypes of people taking without giving, but I don't know how widespread it is (compared to people not giving because they *can't*. It would be nice to have actual numbers on that, but I fear getting them would be somewhat tricky (and would rely on someone's judgement of "need" and "able" which I may or may not agree with).