I agree, in a way, re. the gay wait until marriage thing. The only problem is that the only thing I count as "marriage" is sacramental marriage, and the church doesn't offer that (possibly because it thinks that gay sex isn't sex, or that gay sex is irredeemable, or even that gay sex is a "wrong" than cannot be overlooked for the good intention of a relationship).

That rather puts LGB people into a double bind. I want also to be able to argue that there is merit to only having sex within marriage, but I guess I want the religious definition of marriage widened (which will never happen), so sometimes I feel very jealous that it's always defined in a very straight way.