Why not go twice? Once at the KLBP as a festive event, once at Sternberg (closer to the wedding) as a private, spiritual one.
I must say, KLBP sounds like a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity--you're not going to have a good reason to party outdoors and/or involve your friends and/or greatly inconvenience yourself once you're married. You'll have a lot of chances to go to Ortho. mikvaot and a few to go to liberal mikvaot. But when will you go back (to dunk) here, esp. if you intend to immerse at night after you're married?
If you make a second (closer to wedding) appt. at Sternberg, you'll be able to forgo the actual immersion at KLBP if it's cold or scary or doesn't feel right. Or if you're having a lot of fun, you do immerse, and it turns out to be more of an exuberant thing, you still have the chance for a meditative experience at Sternberg. As I understand, the mikveh is right there in the center, correct? So if you decide to cancel, it's not as though anyone is greatly inconvenienced--after all, they don't provide a rabbi or a mikveh lady. You could even send in a donation despite cancelling. Everybody wins.
I am with hatam_soferet--at 7(!) mikvaot, the only things I've been asked are "You just moved in?" and "Are you staying in town for the holidays?" But I am also, obviously, with you--my mikveh problem isn't that people bother me, it's that I have to go and do a mitzvah under the welcoming eyes of decent women who would be, at the very least, disappointed if they knew the truth about my circumstances. Again, you'll have many, many chances to let "them" look the other way--for the first time, you might as well use the other alternatives.
(Also, did you mean this to be locked?! It is on google blogsearch, of all things--I naturally have a "mikveh" alert set up, and there you were.)
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Date: 2008-08-05 02:57 pm (UTC)I must say, KLBP sounds like a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity--you're not going to have a good reason to party outdoors and/or involve your friends and/or greatly inconvenience yourself once you're married. You'll have a lot of chances to go to Ortho. mikvaot and a few to go to liberal mikvaot. But when will you go back (to dunk) here, esp. if you intend to immerse at night after you're married?
If you make a second (closer to wedding) appt. at Sternberg, you'll be able to forgo the actual immersion at KLBP if it's cold or scary or doesn't feel right. Or if you're having a lot of fun, you do immerse, and it turns out to be more of an exuberant thing, you still have the chance for a meditative experience at Sternberg. As I understand, the mikveh is right there in the center, correct? So if you decide to cancel, it's not as though anyone is greatly inconvenienced--after all, they don't provide a rabbi or a mikveh lady. You could even send in a donation despite cancelling. Everybody wins.
I am with
(Also, did you mean this to be locked?! It is on google blogsearch, of all things--I naturally have a "mikveh" alert set up, and there you were.)