lavendersparkle

Wait, you've spent most of the last five years unsuccessfully looking for a Jewish partner in the UK, so why are you surprised that hatam_soferet expects it to be difficult? You've complained enough times that there just aren't that many people in Britain who are observant without having the Chareidi mindset, who are interested in marrying and raising a family and won't turn down someone a bit older than the norm. I think it's probably even harder for an observant but not Orthodox woman than for a man, actually.

Or are you shocked that hatam_soferet is willing to contemplate hypothetically finding a non-Jewish partner if no nice Jewish boy is available? She puts a higher priority on having a family than you do, she would rather be in a mixed relationship than none at all. For you, a Jewish wife is an absolute requirement, and if you can't find anyone you'll stay a bachelor. But that speaks to exactly the point lavendersparkle is making; it's not necessarily the case that all committed Jews will prioritize that way, and the community should stop assuming that mixed relationships indicate lack of commitment.