Feminism verses aesthetics
Jan. 20th, 2008 11:05 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
lavendersparkleAs I navigate the feminist/egalitarian minefield that is marriage I am amused that two hot button issues have been decided for the shallowest of reasons.
Firstly, surnames. I was pretty sure how this one was going to be decided before I had even met Alec. I have been looking forward to a good excuse to ditch my current surname for as long as I can remember. There's no big deep reason why, I just don't think that my surname sounds very nice and conjectured that whomever I married, would on the balance of probabilities have a prettier surname than me. Alec's surname is a lot nicer than mine so that is the name I shall be adopting upon marriage.
Secondly, wedding rings. On Friday Alec and I went shopping for my engagement ring, which raised the topic of whether Alec was going to wear a wedding ring. Alec wasn't sure because he never wears jewellery and his lack of experience of jewellery left him worried that a wedding ring would fall off and he'd lose it. We decided that in principle it would be nice for him to wear a wedding ring and when we were buying my engagement ring he tried some rings on to see. This sealed the decision. Alec decided against wearing a wedding ring for the very profound reason that he thought it made his fingers look podgey.
Firstly, surnames. I was pretty sure how this one was going to be decided before I had even met Alec. I have been looking forward to a good excuse to ditch my current surname for as long as I can remember. There's no big deep reason why, I just don't think that my surname sounds very nice and conjectured that whomever I married, would on the balance of probabilities have a prettier surname than me. Alec's surname is a lot nicer than mine so that is the name I shall be adopting upon marriage.
Secondly, wedding rings. On Friday Alec and I went shopping for my engagement ring, which raised the topic of whether Alec was going to wear a wedding ring. Alec wasn't sure because he never wears jewellery and his lack of experience of jewellery left him worried that a wedding ring would fall off and he'd lose it. We decided that in principle it would be nice for him to wear a wedding ring and when we were buying my engagement ring he tried some rings on to see. This sealed the decision. Alec decided against wearing a wedding ring for the very profound reason that he thought it made his fingers look podgey.
