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[lavendersparkle]

In my perusing of the wedding planning part of the internet I'm getting increasingly irritable with non-religious brides who want to have an Anglican wedding so that they can get married in a pretty church but then bitch about unfair it is that the church:
a) won't let them get married in a different church to their parish church just because it's prettier and/or was in a film.
b) strongly encourages them to come to church a whole three times to hear the Banns read.
c) makes them meet with the vicar more than once and dares to try to explain Christian ideas of marriage during those meetings.
d) won't allow them to do things which it deems inappropriate during the service.
e) makes them use the liturgy of the Church of England.

The Church of England is a religious body, not a wedding and pretty building preservation service. Would these people wander into a Mosque because it was pretty and then get all uppity about how the imam wouldn't let them wear a strapless dress for the ceremony?

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[naath.livejournal.com]

I've been to a few civil weddings and yeah, it does seem very much "we took a CofE wedding and took out the GodTM", very odd.

I'm also not sure why people do it - but there are a range of benefits that the state hands out, not so much "less tax" these days but things like what happens if you end up in hospital, or if you die intestate, or parental responsibility for the father (or non-gestational mother; I guess that if neither parent is going to gestate the child you have to jump through hoops) with less hoop jumping and so on.

But people often claim things about how they can't feel committed without a wedding, which seems bizarely tied to the God thing (which is fine for people who believe in God, but not so much for people who claim loudly to not believe in God).

Or maybe they just want a stupidly expensive dress...