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[lavendersparkle]

In my perusing of the wedding planning part of the internet I'm getting increasingly irritable with non-religious brides who want to have an Anglican wedding so that they can get married in a pretty church but then bitch about unfair it is that the church:
a) won't let them get married in a different church to their parish church just because it's prettier and/or was in a film.
b) strongly encourages them to come to church a whole three times to hear the Banns read.
c) makes them meet with the vicar more than once and dares to try to explain Christian ideas of marriage during those meetings.
d) won't allow them to do things which it deems inappropriate during the service.
e) makes them use the liturgy of the Church of England.

The Church of England is a religious body, not a wedding and pretty building preservation service. Would these people wander into a Mosque because it was pretty and then get all uppity about how the imam wouldn't let them wear a strapless dress for the ceremony?

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[cartesiandaemon.livejournal.com]

(FWIW, yes, I think that's a pretty good description of why. I strongly suspect that the committed rationalistic people of various/none religions I know would like church weddings for similar reasons, just (a) recognise _why_ they want what they want and (b) be nice about it if you have to negotiate things with the resident church officials and (c) often be able to use a college chapel)